WordlessWednesday- Their Lives Had Matter #BlackLivesMatter


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I know this is a Wordless Wednesday post, but this is my blog and I have to say: I am tired of saying the same things over and over because I am constantly seeing history repeat itself. I want to see action taken place. I want to see change. So many Black lives in less than a decade and there are more than didn’t make headlines news. And this also goes back to the days of Emmett Till and everything after and before.

I want other race of people to stop saying “angry Black woman” and “angry Black man”, and just stop doing things to make someone angry. It’s hard as it is without someone hate someone else for no particular reason except that they hate what race you are. Then why in the hell were we brought and bought here then?

These law enforcements, city officials, government, and etc. need to work on these laws and do something about it. EVERYthing to be done over. This country hasn’t changed much since the Jim Crow’s days. When will it all get better? When it’s 50 years from now and I am physically here on Earth to see it, I can only pray that this world will be a better and brighter future. But, we need more than prayers. I would love to see equality, peace, love, etc. in this world, but there are people who are pretenders, people who are haters, the fakers, and the ones who are combusting with hostility. They are the ones who make it so…

To be continued…

Motivation Monday- The Teaching Of Life #Quotes


“And after every storm comes a new sky.”

We all go through something for reason so it’s always good to see a rainbow in the sky, a flower so beautiful it doesn’t need to be pluck, and the magic the sun brings when it rises and falls. We have to remind ourselves that it’s okay to feel what it is we are feeling so we can process it well. We have to do what we can, while we can, so we can continue to embrace the teachings that life give us.

I hope you all had a wonderful weekend, and I hope you get through this week on a positive note. Stay safe and be blessed, lovelies.

April Writing Challenge- Day 30: My Highs and Lows For this Month


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Wow, I can’t believe this #writing challenge has come to an end. Thinking back to March 30th, I was like should I do this because I would have to write something for thirty days straight. And, drum roll please…(makes drumming sound)… I have gotten to Day 30. Yay! And I have done this with another blogger- Baby Butterflies and Coffee. Please do check out her posts if you haven’t done so. She’s amazing. It was fun doing this challenge with her and I thank her a lot for doing this with me.

Now, today’s writing challenge is to write about my highs and lows for this month. I want to talk about the highs first.

One of my highs for this month was talking about what makes me really happy. It was day one and it felt good talking about something positive and putting me in a good mood. Another was listing the five places I want to visit because though being in quarantine like everyone else, it didn’t hurt having to talk about places I dream of visiting one day. While doing the challenge, Day 5, I had taken the liberty to study more about those places mainly to give myself something to do and to educate myself.

During this month, I had come across some movies and shows I’ve never seen and re-watched the ones I have seen at least more than once. I probably have seen tens of movies this month and it felt good to chill out with housemates and kick back just watching movies. There were times I had watched some films and shows by myself and it okay with me. Then there was the music that helped me get through certain  moments I had whether it was good or bad. Music tends to have that effect that it can turn a cloudy day into a day that of sunshine. It is great therapy.

Another high I had was me getting high, just kidding, but having spent some time with myself and getting to know who I am and what I am, my likes and dislikes, I’ll have to say it was quite interesting. And that how I felt when I wrote the 30 facts about me. It’s something about sharing tidbits of information about yourself because you try not to come off too weird or crazy, or something else. Then I told myself, that all that I am it is better that I will be myself and hope that you guys would understand. I have learned that if you can’t be yourself around people then you have to be around those who can. And that is what I had applied in real life. Believe me when I say in this cyberworld, there are people I know in real life and I can’t be myself with them in cyberworld or real world.

The lows I had was having to write about my past and would sit for hours debating whether I should write about it or not.  Anything so distressing to talk about is going to be hard when it’s about the past. But I am glad that I did. As I was able to open up, I was able to peel away each layer of the past with ease. It wasn’t easy at first to open up and I suppose that is why I’m glad that I’ve been going to counseling in which I have been doing so for a year and a half now.

The lows haven’t really been the kinds of lows that would normally make me want to break out in fits of rage and cry. No, this time, I allow myself to go through and absorb what was going on so I can go through the process of the happenings so it can be processed well. I’m happy that I am doing better than I had before.

Any other lows I had will be okay and will work itself out. Anything that we all go through is for a reason and we shouldn’t beat ourselves up and just learn from it. I know not that it is okay if I don’t know all the answers and it’s okay to think back to the past. When thinking back to the past, now, it is more on the lines of learning and healing so I can grow and be the best version of myself.

The past thirty days have taught me a lot and it hasn’t quite been a crazy roller coaster ride, but I am thankful I have gone through it all.

Thank you all for rocking with me for these thirty days and any other days before. I am grateful and thankful you have taken the time out to read my blog posts and getting to know the woman behind this blog. I have some catching  up to do in reading your posts. Thanks again.

Much love,

Pamela

This concludes the 30 Days Writing Challenge. Be safe and well. Enjoy yourself and know that someone cares about you. Take care.

P.S. Why do this sounds like a farewell. I’m going to be posting something else soon, just don’t know when yet. Trust you will see me and my posts again sometimes soon.

 

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April Writing Challenge- Day 29: My Goals For the Next 30 Days


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This has been a long month, but fun and interesting. Fun because of this writing challenge and sharing and connecting with you all. I can’t tell you how many times I had to woosa my way through most of these challenges. And we have one more day to go.

Today’s writing challenge is about my goals for the next 30 days. Honestly, I haven’t really thought about making any goals to achieve or to just get started on yet. All I do know for the next thirty days, I plan on continue to work in the best way I can from home and to try not to go stir-crazy with any Okay, with the stir-crazy part, I will do my best to continue to find ways to keep my mind busy with things to do and to take time out for myself to do the things I love doing. Meditation helps a lot and I need to get back to doing yoga again while I am in the house. I would have to find the space to do so.

I would like to get back to my novel writing and at least do a read through since I had rewritten it several times, and made other edits dozens and dozens of times. My completed novel is just sitting away wondering if I’m ever coming back to do something with it, and I want to read it again since I haven’t done so in a little over a year.

Other goals aren’t something I had put into action yet and some are just stored away in a filing cabinet in my brain ready for me to sort through them. Though, I do want to read more and write out a list of things to accomplish for this year or going-into-next year. A few years ago, I had written out a list of things I would like to do like for instance: investing in myself, supporting others more, etc. I haven’t gotten around to most of what was on my list, and instead of starting with a brand new list, I’ll just revise what I already have and crossed out what I already did on the list. The thing about setting goals I have come to understand is that it must be realistic and to take it one step at a time.  I’ve read somewhere that it is important to have S.M.A.R.T. goals, which stand for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-based. When I list my goals, I sometimes go back and re-read what each letter of this acronym means and then check my goals again.

The personal goals I want to work on are:

  • to stop procrastinating
  • have more confidence in myself
  • be more proactive
  • stop dwelling on the past
  • work on healing
  • to not be afraid of love, because I’ve been hurt too often, and to open my heart to give and receive
  • manage my stress
  • work on eating healthy more and to exercise
  • etc.

With these goals listed above and those I haven’t mentioned, I don’t plan on achieving all of them in one month, but I at least want to get started on doing something.

How about you? Are you setting goals? If not, is it something you plan on doing? And if so, would you like to share your goals with us?

Thank you for reading, and stay tuned for Day 30.

April Writing Challenge- Day 28: Five Things That Make Me Laugh-Out-Loud


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Most times when I am down, up, or sideways, or upside down, I tend to find something that makes me laugh. And those are the other times when I am not reading or writing.

Laughing is good for the soul and I had written about it on a previous post that you can check out here. Watching cartoons are my go-to because not only does it reminds me of being a kid, there is always something that will make me laugh even if it not that humorous.

Today’s writing challenge is writing about something that makes me laugh at loud. I can only post five things so let’s see how that goes.

1. Cartoons. Of course you already knew that. Duh. Lol. Most of what I would watch that’ll get me to laughing is Bugs Bunny. Yeah, I can’t help it because it’s not easy watching the silly and funny rabbit without laughing. Others include Hey Arnold, Courage the Cowardly Dog, and lots others. Not only are they are entertaining, but they also keep me laughing which is good. (I don’t want to list others in case you might laugh at me. )

2. Silly/Funny Memes. Sometimes, or just about all the time when we’re scrolling through social media we may come to some things we may or may want to see. And that could be talks about the coronavirus, those Instagram models, and people you may or may not know that are giving us a glimpse into their lives. It all depends on how you look at it, and what you feel like seeing at the moment. Me, I would rather see regular people sharing with us than seeing these female Instagram models who show more ass than anything. I know I used to follow most of them for other reasons like supporting women’s businesses and such, but I promise I’m not complaining I’m just like, well, o-kay.

Okay back to the memes. Most of them don’t make sense, corny, or just plain funny. I like to think that it helps pass the time and take your mind off of things.

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3. Watching sitcoms. We all know that those situational comedies are what may or may not have been the highlight of our childhood years. I grew up watching Family Matters and I love Steve Urkel. My thing was, I had often looked forward to TGIF (Thank Goodness It’s Friday) when it would come on because that’s when I looked forward to watching Full House as well and all those other shows. I would wish that I had a good family and happy and had everyone come together and try to get along. But, my escape were to see other families come together and do crazy things that was funny to me. The other sitcom I watched but haven’t done so until I was an adult was Seinfeld. Every other weekday now if I can catch it, I would watch Jerry and the other cast members because it would have me rolling in fits of laughter. Also, throughout the years, I would watch Good Times, Three Company, 227, I Love Lucy, Martin, The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Everybody Hates Chris, The Big Bang Theory, and some others. Some of these shows came out before I was born so I had to watched the reruns of them or on DVDs. They are the sitcoms I can trust I would LOL.

4. Immediate family together sharing jokes and memories. These are the times I enjoy the most. I can remember sitting with my immediate family talking and sharing stories and laughs of any and everything just to pass the time but also to sink into a timeless world where only we exist. After dinner, but before watching a nightly movie, we would gather in the living room and my dad would lead as he told stories if his youth. We would then go into talks about any and everything and laughed until our sides hurt. Now that it is just my child, mom, and siblings, I’m hoping that we can continue on with the tradition.

5. Blooper reels. If you love movies and sitcoms as much as I do, you probably like blooper reels. I always had a habit of looking at the making of a movie or show to see parts of how it all came together. It just amazes me watching how the director, producers, and other cast members put together most movies and shows that turned out to be a masterpiece. But what really makes me laugh out loud is the bloopers of seeing the mistakes the actors make when doing the film or show. It can be a mix-up of their lines, forgetting the lines, or accidentally “falling” into the wrong place. It reminds me that they are human and they do make mistakes. And most of all, it’s just funny how they do those things because in most in cases they actually tying to be funny.

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What are the things that make you laugh out loud? Thank you for reading.

Stay tuned for Day 29.