The Unhappy Wife by @kegarland- My First Book Review


When I first glanced at the book, The Unhappy Wife by author KE Garland who is a dear friend and blogger, I was excited and anxious. I’m not married and never was, though it taught me to put myself first, and to not confused abuse of any kind as love.

As I stared at the electronic book in my hands, I couldn’t wait to swiped the pages to began reading. The stories are based on real women’s true stories about their experiences on marriage. 

This is my first time doing a book review or any kind of review here, so I may reflect back to a certain time in my life and/or a woman  I once knew from church who had gone through a similar situation as the women in this book. I won’t give much away; you have to go and read it for yourself if you haven’t done so yet.

 There was this one story that took me back to a time witnessing the women of the church who would so-called “put” two people together in the name of Christ. I’m from and still is in the South and we rolled like that. Well, except me; I rolled my own way. Lol. It was difficult getting through that time then.

Back to the story, I frowned because of this Mrs. C woman telling the female, Jasmyne what she should do despite what were clearly going on like she haven’t a clue. Jasmyne clearly didn’t want to marry the guy, and it appeared she was pressured into doing so. The guy was a definite loser and took full advantage of a good woman.

She married him anyway in spite of the signs and red flags being present in front of her. When she felt like she couldn’t take anymore of his frigging crap, she did something that gave me hope; she made the choice to get a divorce. Way to go, girl!

Gina’s story makes me not want to get marry, if I ever had the thought in the first place, but there are men out there who will prey on you before and after the nuptials. There’s no way I could go through not being around my family for a guy… again.

My own family and I aren’t close anyway, and  I really don’t like being told what I can and can’t do particularly by a man, and I was NEVER married. Gina even had to choose between the man and her dog! Oh! My heart is with her and the rest of the women. I won’t indulge more.

I recommend this book to anyone, whether you’re single, engaged, or married. It doesn’t even matter what your race, gender, sexual orientation or religion is either; The Unhappy Wife is worth the read. 

These women found strength, courage, and the ability to find happiness within themselves as for in their lives. You can even be in a relationship, and what the women gone through is happening or has happened to you.

Love, your life, your happiness and marriage are nothing to toy with, and people must know what they are getting into no matter what your statuses are.

I’ve enjoyed reading this book along with some tears, nails biting and emotions that overwhelmed me, but taught me to love myself first. To know what I want out of life and to be honest to the fact. It’s a great deal to me.

Many thanks to Kathy and the women for sharing with us. 🙏

Dr. KE Garland

You can find Dr. Kathy at her blog by clicking here.

Twitter:@kegarland

You can order The Unhappy Wife by visiting her site: https://kegarland.com

Instagram Moments On Monday- How To Keep One Happy 


 

For today’s Instagram moment, I went with something a bit humorous. But is it true though? Although, they claimed it doesn’t takes much to keep a man happy, yet I heard, (from men actually) that women want too much. As I look over the list, it’s not that long really. So, why do these men act like we have a Santa Clause’s list of demands? Lol.

What do you all thinks?

Writing Challenge (Day 14) Life In Seven Years


It has been two weeks since I’ve started this challenge. And, I must say that I am proud of myself. When I was doing a 90-day challenge this year to complete my novel, which I had, it was almost like torture. The good kind I must say. I love to write and it brings me joy. I can live my life doing what I love everyday which brings me to today’s challenge:

Where do I see myself in seven years?

I see myself being a bestselling author and hopefully, collaborating with other authors too. Yes, I would like to see my name on books I had brought to life, but it’s no fun doing it alone sometimes.Like that saying goes, “Share the wealth with those who has helped you along the way.” I don’t want to be famous, I just want my writing to inspire someone, to have them fall in love with my characters, and be erotic. Yes, I said that, yet in a tasteful way.

Reaching out to aid people in any way I can have always been one of my goals in life. We all can be of help to someone, especially a person who needs it. Within the next seven years, I want to go as far as God allows me to and be an advocate for another.

Marriage? One may hope. I really don’t see it though, but it will be wonderful being a wife. I think. Before I do, I want to work on becoming a better me. Do what makes me happy, live closely to how I have always dream.

I really can’t elaborate much on how my life will be like in seven years, and this is only the condensed version, but I can believe. I’m hoping everything I tried and work hard for pays off.

Playing Wifey in a Non Married Relationship- Part. 1


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We all may have been there. Being in a relationship, living together like you’re married.
The one thing I dislike about that is the fact it gives the other person the okay to act like they are single. For most. While others demand of you to do this and that, carrying on like two married couples.
Now, how can two people who claim to love one another, be there for one another, and then live together for years and not be married. I personally believe if you live together, have children then you should be married. But, part of me believe that you should live apart until ready to say those vows.
No one, that I know of, wants to be a wife or husband in a non married relationship. They rather have the real thing and live in honor and in truth. It’s even honorable to God.

How long can you live together as married until you realize it is time to tie that knot?

I know for a fact that it doesn’t take years and years. You either know this person is who you are meant to spend the rest of your life with or not. You also don’t play mind games. (And I’m talking only to the ones that does this.)

Ladies, we as women have to draw a line somewhere. You can be the cook, housekeeper, chauffeur, mother, and lover with a little more titles living with a man for over five odd years and not be in a monogamous marriage.
I’m not downing the men either because they are some men who want to settle down and feel like they found the right woman, but she isn’t ready for marriage.
Can you see yourself in that type of relationship for years to come- a non-marriage one? Don’t fool yourself. Don’t kid yourself into believing that this person who promise to love you and treat you like a queen that he will put a ring on it.
You should also not jump head first into marriage, because for some are headed down to divorce court. Take it from me, although had never married yet, know this person for years and still feel like things won’t change. And a future with is only non-existence like Santa Clause.

If a man want you to play a role of a wife, look at your bare left ring finger and say, “Not until we say I Do”.

Look forward to part 2 coming soon.

Until we meet again,
Pamela

A Sexier You


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Sit back and relax…it has been a long day.

Now, we all are humans. I hope. (Smiles) We are all adults,  so why are some of us are squeamish when it comes to being open-minded to new things? Whether you are in a relationship, married, or have a partner, we all know, old routines no longer work after a certain time. It’s like when you first get into a relationship, (or at first, dating) you do the usual routine, like for instance: spending long hours talking on the phone, thinking only of that person all day, going on dates, skipping, (lol) etc. After the newness wears off, you and your person become comfortable around one another. Too comfortable.

It’s to the point where you’re letting yourself go, or the other person letting his or herself go. Or, you find yourself picking up behind that person. Please, don’t do that. You should never get too “comfortable” to the point where you stop getting your hair done, cutting your hair, getting your nails done, you get the picture. No matter where you are in the social status, hopefully before you get marry, you should always make sure you are looking your best.

Now, I’m not saying (women and men) that you should sit in the house dress like you’re going out to a gala or  somewhere extravagant. Just don’t break out into old habits. Being sexy means more than wearing skimpy clothes, women, and walking around with your abs on blast, men. Being sexy means taking the time out to keep up with your appearance. Whatever you were doing in the beginning for that person to be appealing, don’t stop. You do not want your partner to direct his or her attention at the next person because he or she like what they see.

Here are some tips you can use to stay that sexier you:

  • Be you. Don’t be like no other person but you. There’s nothing sexier than a person you are now. Accept who you are first; don;t expect someone to when you don’t.
  • Hygiene matters to the bone.
  • Wear clothes that compliment you. You should never wear clothes that doesn’t agree with you. It will throw your appearance far off.
  • As stated earlier, DO NOT stop looking your very best. That what makes you, you. From your hair to your shoes, your sense of style and appearance can go a long way.
  • Buy sexy lingerie for yourself, women. Men, it’s okay to buy your lady lingerie also. You may get a show of your life!
  • Take a candlelit bubble bath soaking in invigorating oils. Be stress free. No one wants to walk around all day looking tired and wash-out. Take the time to re-energize an invigorate yourself.

You don’t have to go around looking like the people on those reality shows,  like The Real Housewives of…  Even they have an off day. Be you.  Be happy. Be true.

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