First off, happy Thrusday to you all! I know that I tend to get on a serious note, but this is serious- or however you may want to look at it.

I had came across this article on Facebook and wasn’t going to read it, thinking it may be garbage or something blah blah. It was deemed interesting; I must say. So, ladies tell me what do you think about these five reasons you think those women( the word hoes sounds harsh) are winning in your opinion.

Also, women who are available, fun, or stroke men egos aren’t always a hoe, mind you.

Men, you are welcome to chime in as well. What are your thoughts?

Chat with you soon. 💋


Her Caribbean Lover, Part 1

She sat on the grassy, hard bank, contemplating whether to take that swim, or just wait for him to join her.

It has been awhile since she is able to relax her tiring body; work has been hectic and she could really use some time to recoup.

He saw her. There she was as she promised; a poised, curvy, gorgeous woman who saw life as it is anticipating his arrival but on her terms.

Standing tall and muscular, his handsome face took in the soft curves of her body as she slowly dips a foot in the amazingly cool water.

The coolness of the blue-green water soothes her. “Ah,” she moans. This what she waited several months for.

He waited for his cue, not wanting to frighten her with his presence. He waited as she stops to strip out of her clothes to a skimpy, red, yellow, and green bikini that lies underneath. And, he waited still.

She glides into the deep water, smiling in satisfaction as she did. But, it was cut short when she heard a rustling sound. She quickly turns, and there she saw him standing tall and proud.

She smiles seductively and beckons him ever so slowly, watching as he ambles over to where she was. He hastily puts a foot in and grimaces at the temperature of the water. He groans as she softly laughs and held out her arms to him.

They embrace, staring into the other’s eyes. They felt their love rising. Her Caribbean love. She touches his attractive face, noting the longing for her in his eyes. He brushes a finger against her soft lips and bent to taste them…

Healthy Relationships & Sex Life

Links for health wellness for better sex for couples and the rest of us:

When I had read all the health benefits for love and sex on iVillage, I’ve done a mental checklist. One will never know how much it takes to keep up a healthy  love/sex life. It takes quite a deal to keep something you’re suppose to take serious going in the right direction. But, we can still reap from the benefits of frequent love-making with our mates that can seriously improve our lives in more ways than one.

The ten top health benefits below that it takes to keep seeking that emotional and physical connection with another person are:

#1 Less stress

I read that studies show that good constant sex keeps the stress level down. Nothing wrong with that. And, it’s not just the physical, touching and kissing plays its part and goes a long way. So, have much of those.

#2 Longer life

I don’t know why, but studies shows men who have frequent intercourse live longer than men who didn’t. Although, studies didn’t show that for women. Hmm…

#3 More youthful appearance

#4 Stronger muscles for men and women 

#5 Clearer thinking

#6 Improved heart health

Although sex may not qualify as an intense cardio workout, it does offer a demonstrable benefit to your heart.  Those who had sex at least twice a week had a much lower risk of developing cardiovascular disease than men who had sex once a month or less.

#7 Stronger relationships

Relationship satisfaction is strengthened when both partners are sexually satisfied. We all know that. A strong, healthy relationship is one in which the partners show respect and kindness toward each other. The relationship forms a rewarding and enduring bond of trust and support.

#8 Pain relief

#9 Stronger immunity

#10 Reduced risk of some cancers

Despite the fact that I haven’t listed everything in detail under each benefits, I wanted to entail the key benefits that’s the most important. For others, you may get the point. As you can see, having a healthy love or sex life can be very beneficial. It’s also never to be taken lightly. Even though satisfying as sex can be, being in love, I mean truly in love tops them all.  If you don’t have true, real love, then all the above won’t mean a thing.

Love: To Be or Not to Be

What’s the true definition of love? Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. With that being said, why have some of us fail to manage to do something so elementary?

Years ago, I thought I knew what love really means.  Okay, someone may do something nice for you or even carry out a plan to show their gratitude for what you have done for them, but is it truly love? Let’s talk relationships. When you are in a relationship with this person you feel very much passionate about, is it love or is it really lust? What brought the two of you together? What were the person’s characteristics? Some of us waste no time jumping into a relationship because we “felt” something for the other person. Our heart’s desire clouding us with something that can be so deceitful. But, love can also be a beautiful thing. The sweet kisses. The yearning to be held by your beloved. The passionate love-making the two of you make. Wow. Need I go on?

To be love can take on something so extraordinaire.  Especially when one is in a romantic relationship. In an article I read,  it says  “during the initial stages of a romantic relationship, there is more often more emphasis on emotions—especially those of loveintimacy,compassionappreciation, and affinity—rather than physical intimacy.”

I agree on that statement.  Why do you think there’s more emphasis on emotions, as well as the above? It’s because when you’re in a romantic relationships, those are the criteria necessary for a productive romance. I have  known a lot of people who said that they had all of those criteria, but their relationship/marriage didn’t last. I have always wondered what went wrong. Sometimes, the person may had become bored with the relationship or with the person. It’s exhausting as you have to always innovate, do something new, upgrade maybe. Sometimes, we get comfortable, too comfortable and settle into a routine. Don’t settle into a routine. And, definitely don’t settle when it comes to the bedroom either.  You have to always spice things up. Give your lover something so unexpected that it will blow their mind. They won’t dare look left or right eyeing the next person. But, if they supposedly say they love you, they will make things work. Moreover, it shouldn’t be  just when especially when it boils down to love-making.


Emotions, love, intimacy, compassion, appreciation, and affinity are the ones that should stay strong in a romantic relationship. Physical intimacy comes last, because if that all you have, instead of the others, then it’s not romance. Not in a relationship or marriage. But, if you and your lover are cool with just being sex buddies or whatever, then do what works for you.

To not be love, you’re in a state of mind when none of the above, excluding physical intimacy, doesn’t matters to you. Either, you been hurt, emotional damage, etc., you want to be free of emotions and all that comes with it. You’re healing from the inside. For me, I rather not get into anything romantically until I seek therapy or whatever works for me to recover. It’s a healing process and requires time. Give yourself time. It’s worth it.


“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” Aristotle (BC 384-322), Greek Philosopher

“Nuptial love makes mankind; friendly love perfects it; but wanton love corrupts and debases it.” Francis Bacon (1561-1626), British Philosopher

“You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.” AmyCarmichael 1867-? Irish Missionary

“Love means to love that which is unlovable; or it is no virtue at all.” Gilbert K. Chesterton 1874-1936, British Author