April Writing Challenge- Day 18: Thirty Facts About Me

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Hi, lovelies! How have your days (and nights) been treating you? I hope all is well and you are taking care of yourself and family the best you know how to do. I hate what is happening and I am trying my best not to let it get the best of me by finding other things to occupied my time when I am not working. I pray you are doing whatever you can as well.

Today’s writing challenge is about the facts. Facts about me that is. When I saw the challenge for today a few days ago, I was a bit nervous because I didn’t know what to share about myself and what not to. Then I was like, “hell, I had already mentioned some things about my childhood so I might as well prepare for the 30 facts I’m to mention.” And here we are.

  1. I have never been outside of my country which is the USA. Yep. I have never been to any other country. I haven’t been as far north than Virginia which is still consider the south. (I’m from South Carolina.) I haven’t been far west than Georgia. South of me, I have been to Jacksonville, Florida where my dad is from. And I have briefly been to Tampa. I want to visit Orlando because of Walt Disney World. What? Don’t judge me.
  2. I am an introvert. You may already know that. I like being by myself too much sometimes. I guess I have been around too many liars, schemers, cheaters, people who aggravate my nerves, etc. that I have taken a liking to my own company. I like to people-watch, more like a habit. Being around most people drain me. Sometimes I don’t like talking much either, and I’m claustrophobic.
  3. Spirituality isn’t something I chose, it has chosen me, and began to love it and learn it. Since I was a little girl, I would get these dreams and visions that would come to me, and then it would happen in real life. I don’t know why that is, it just is. Like for most people who have the gift or knack of tarot reading, various divination, psychic, psychic mediums, spiritual readers, and/or others that fit in that category, it is something that was given from God and the Universe. And you can use it or lose it. And some spiritual gifts are just with you and can get stronger as you get older. When you tap into it and start “working” on yourself and strengthen it, you have to study it and do these other things…it’s a post for another time. And yes, I know there are scammers and fakers out there, but I’m talking about the real deal people.
  4. I love creative arts as a whole. Besides writing, from whenever I have started, I used to draw. I would illustrate my drawings in the books I would write. I believe this was back when I was in the fourth grade. I am also a phenomenal dancer, but I never went out to go dancing somewhere like a club. Sewing is also something that I love doing. I plan on buying my first sewing machine this year, hopefully, and get some fabrics and such to get started making some stuff.
  5. I’m into the supernatural and paranormal worlds. Some things are true and real and some are far-fetched. First let me say, I don’t believe werewolves are real, but I love seeing them on television for my entertainment. Witches are real people. Vampires aren’t real to me. Though there are people I have researched who called themselves modern-day vampires. They tend to get too heavy into the practice or whatever they call it. Ghosts/spirits are real and I know that first-hand and no one can tell me otherwise, to each his own. I don’t just watch the shows and movies and read the novels, in real-life the worlds are very much real. For sure, some people will create hoaxes and will go out of their way to fool others. That’s why you have to have the ability of discernment to know what is real and what’s not. I’m also the type of person who likes getting the facts first unless I have already know what the deal is already.
  6. I am short. Yeah, my daughter is in the fifth grade and she is 5’4″ which makes her taller than me. Almost everyone I know is taller than me. I am above five feet though.
  7. I have sensitivity issues. I’m not talking about sensitive feelings. I have sensitive eyes, skin, hair, stomach, like dang. Yeah, I am working on taking care of those issues, because it can get expensive trying to find the right products for your skin that won’t break you out or cause issues with your hair. Sunlight and most other light hurt my eyes and I haven’t gotten around to getting the glasses that will protect my eyes from them.
  8. I hate the dark. I still sleep with a nightlight.
  9. I don’t care for most sports. If it’s boxing, then I will watch it.
  10. I am the oldest child out of four.
  11. I have addictions. I am addicted to being the best version of myself, thinking about the future, worrying about getting older, books, and music, and other things I don’t feel like mentioning.
  12. I have a habit of saying the word “seriously.” I don’t know why it just something I seriously do.
  13. During my first year of high school, I had gotten into trouble a lot. I had ended up following the wrong crowd, cutting class, and doing other things.
  14. If I would to pick a decade to be an adult in, it would be the ’80s. I was born during that time, but I sometimes wonder what it would be like to be an adult in the ’80 instead of a baby. I love the decade because of the music. It was the punk-rock era and I love rock music. The hair and style of the ’80s look weird at times, but it looks cool.
  15. I can’t swim. Yep, I can not swim, but I love the water though. I love visiting the ocean because of how serene and magical it is, especially when there aren’t many people there.
  16. If I can go back in time and change something, well, there would be a lot I would change. The world isn’t great nor perfect, but I may not change anything because what you do to in the past could alter the future. Still, I wish to go back in time and change a few things, though.
  17. If I could go 24 hours without doing something it would probably be sex. Lol. I said sex because I wanted to catch your eye. It was something I used to write about on my blog, and I believe it made some people uncomfortable. It was clean and more on the lines of romance and relationships, and education-type thing. Seriously, what I could live without is social media/news, anything of that nature. It’s something I could cleanse myself from, and do without for a while.
  18. My favorite ice cream is chocolate chip cookie dough.
  19. I am a weird person. Yeah, I have accepted the fact that I am weird. I’ll tell you another time why I am.
  20. What catches and will make me pause about a person’s face is their eyes. I love looking at a person’s eyes. I try not to let anyone see me gazing at their eyes. There are many reasons why, and talking about it needs its own post.
  21. My alcoholic drink of choice is vodka and wine. I don’t like beer unless it’s a Corona, and I dislike rum, gin, brandy, etc.
  22. I mostly listen to jazz music and old-school R&B. Slow jazz is my absolute favorite because it’s relaxing and set the tone. I love other music like, reggae, calypso, old school hip-hop, Pop, R&B in general, dance-hall, folk music, and others.
  23. I hate popping noises. When I was a kid, my cousins used to scare me by popping balloons right by my ear. Since then, I can’t stand the noise.
  24. I stopped drinking sodas four years ago. It was for health reasons.
  25. I am a neat freak and perfectionist.
  26. Guys that talk about their past a lot like past relationships really gets on my nerves. I have had a few who had talked me to death about their past relationships. It’s draining and it’s a no-no. It’s disrespectful to want to date someone or is dating someone and you constantly yapping about an ex or two. It is also annoying. I would hear about the first time to find out what I am dealing with, but I don’t like it when they keep doing that. You have to teach people how to treat you.
  27. I don’t smoke. I never tried it and never care to do so.
  28. I have been called nerdy. Not because I look like one because I wear glasses. I just like sci-fi stuff. Most science isn’t fiction or made-up. I love science and believe sci-fi should be called sci-fa for science fact. Studying quantum physics is a must for me. I don’t know a lot about it, so I want to study what I don’t know or don’t much about. Other things qualifies me as a nerd too, I suppose.
  29. I love astrology. I like to study the stars, planets and the entire galaxy. I have downloaded Google Earth on my laptop and have called myself studying the planets that were on there. It may be a few years out-dated, but I had fun looking around on Earth, zooming into the sky and seeing the many planets, stars and such. I have even found the star for Aries. I have visited the Moon and Mars on Google Earth. It’s quite something. I just wished I had better technology. I want to own a telescope one day.
  30. I have a clear vision for my future. I don’t mean that spiritually. I don’t like planning anything too much because if it doesn’t go to plan, I will get disappointed. I know what I want to do with my life for the next so years, but you know life. It always got a way of doing things that you may not agree with. I know what I want career wise and how I want my life to go. I wish to make the money I want to make and have love find me. And I’m talking about unconditional love, real and true. I have other plans for my future.

This is it for the facts about me. I hope you all have enjoyed reading about and getting to know me. That wasn’t even all. Thank you for doing that. I hope to get to know more about you as well soon. I hope you have a joyous and blessed day.

Stay safe and protected. Chat with you soon. Muah!

Stay tuned for Day 18.

April Writing Challenge- Day 12: The Five Blessings In My Life

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Happy Easter to everyone! I hope you all are doing well regardless of what’s going on in the world. You don’t need me tell you the same things a lot of people are already saying like remember to wash your hands and stay home. No, I’m not going to be a repeater, but what I will say is to take each day one at a time. Do what you can and how you can to take care of yourself and your family.

Today’s challenge is to write about the five blessings in my life. This is easy compared to the last few days. When I first heard about the coronavirus and the fact that people was affected by it and some had lost their life, I felt like d**n, this is bad. It started going from bad to worst. The fact that everyone have to stay home except for essential workers and those who have to leave their homes to go to the grocery store and pharmacy, I first felt like staying home may be hard to do. Then I thought, wait a minute. I’ve been doing this all the years before. Before it seems like I didn’t leave the house unless it was to the grocery store or the doctor, now it just heightened for me. But now as the world is on lock-down, I sitting here thinking about what is going on the world and having to write about my blessings. Though there are several things that are blessings to me, I can only name five.

  1. My immediate family. It is a blessings to have my child near me and seeing her everyday, though I miss my mom and siblings. Hearing their voices on the phone is one thing, but not being able so their faces is hard. But, I remind myself that their was times that I haven’t seen them for several months. I know that someday soon we would see one another again.
  2. Waking up each day. It is truly a blessing to open my eyes each day and being able to get a chance at life. I try not to complain because there are people out there who don’t get this luxury.
  3. Employment. There was a time when I didn’t have any money at all and worry about paying food and such. And then when I did, it went into bills and food. So, I had to be thankful for something. I may not like the place I am living in, but I have a roof over my head. I know that if a change my way of thinking, I can change my life. And I did. It is something I am currently working on.
  4. Challenges. If it wasn’t for challenges, I wouldn’t be the person that I am today.
  5. Writing/Blogging. I love being able to articulate my words through blogging and being able to share with others my thoughts and the stories I write.

What are some of your blessings in your life you would like to share?

Thank you for reading and I hope you all have a wonderful and bless day. Stay tuned for Day 13.

April Writing Challenge- Day 11: Something I Always Think “What If” About

I need to listen to this more often. I've passed up too many chances for my own stubborn reasons. & now I'll always wonder
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Have you ever sat back and cupped your chin and said, “Hmm. What if…”? I’m sure you have. We probably had done it countless times in our life. Some more than others. Today’s challenge is about writing something I always think “what if” about. When I was a child I used to asked questions a lot as most children do. Unfortunately for me, my questions were never answered until I started finding out for myself. And, oh yeah, growing up and definitely having life responding to them. Not so funny how that works. There are a lot of things I wonder what if about but it will take too long. So I will narrow it down.

I wonder what if I didn’t leave and moved to live with other relatives when I was a teenager? I probably wouldn’t have been able to experience the things that I’ve done. The person I was living with first had taken my siblings and me into her home. She was a woman in her fifties then. She was mean and abusive and when I couldn’t take it anymore, I moved away while she was in church. I moved with another relative and began to feel free. What if I wasn’t able to do that? What would happen if I hadn’t done that? Even when I thought I would have a chance to live out my teenage years like most, my relative also started to become strict like the one before. She wasn’t mean or abusive, but I wish she didn’t gossip too much and tell my business, and not opened my mail without my consent. And listening in to my calls on another line while I’m on the phone.

What if I wasn’t living with this particular relative? I probably wouldn’t have experienced some of the things I did that I can’t say on here just yet, because it’s hard to put together the words of seeing and being around situations that I shouldn’t. Maybe things could have been better. Maybe they wouldn’t have. What if I never met this guy who was a college recruiter and wanted the best for me? We ended up becoming friends and going through high school was hard enough as it is. Though I was still in high school; he was older than me. I turned 18 a few months later, and I came to know he was different from the rest. How? Yes, he is a man. But, he was more than those types of guys who only interested in wanted sex. No, he turned out to be a person who saw something in me that I didn’t saw in myself. He was kind, respectful, understanding, and wasn’t afraid to speak his mind. A friend who would tell you if you are doing wrong because he knows this isn’t you and wants the best for you.

I constantly thought about what if I would have left with him and hung out with him on several occasions and when he wanted his family and me to meet each other. I always felt scared that if I did something my relative didn’t like, she would put me out the house. He was a good person. I knew that too late. He always tried to be there for me like a friend should, but my relative didn’t like him. What I usually pondered about is why did she not like him who is a good guy, but these guys who were bad to me and for me she doesn’t care? It’s like she wanted the bad guys who lie and cheat on me and treated me like crap to be for me. But, don’t want the good ones for me. I never understood that.

I wondered what if I never met my child’s father? I would have never gotten with someone who turned out to be a narcissist, user, and an abuser. I wouldn’t have been dumb enough to think that a person could change and treated me better after living with them for so many years. I would have never wasted precious years with a much older man. You can’t get time back. Sometimes when I would think about the what if, the image of my daughter pops up in my mind. Then I tell myself that my child would have never existed, and I love her and can’t see her not in my life. So, what if I never stayed so long with this person? My child and I would be in a better situation. We would be happy and at peace, and not having someone feel like he can project his anger and frustration out on us. I should have never listened to people and believed that a child supposed to live with both parents no matter what. If it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. We had gone through so much and would not advise anyone else to do the same.

I believe people should do what is best for them and learn not from their own mistakes but others as well. I learned that we go through things for a reason. Sometimes we may not understand why, but in time it will all come together and then you will know.

Thanks for reading and stay tuned for Day 12. Stay safe and be blessed. And

April Writing Challenge- Day 9: Words Of Wisdom #Quotes

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Today’s writing challenge is about words of wisdom that speak to me. After yesterday’s challenge, I could use some inspiration, or better yet, words of wisdom. When I think about wisdom what comes to mind is understanding and logic. It’s what is being used when we perceive our world, and how we perceive it.

The words of wisdom that speak to me are:

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” –Lao Tzu

I often wonder about the road ahead of me and sometimes it can be my downfall. Whatever it is I’m to do, I tend to look beyond what I see to find out what is ahead. I do that because it helps my anxiety sometimes, but it can cripple me if I allow it to get the best of me. I have to keep telling myself that if I want to get ahead, to get to where I want to be, and to get something done, then I must take a step in to achieve that. One step turns into two then another and much more, and with hard work and dedication, you will go on this journey to wherever you are going.

In the past and up until some point, I would give people the benefit of a doubt, trusting that they can change and hopefully for the better. These words of wisdom from Maya Angelou speak to me because it reminds me to go by first impressions. Then again, as I think about it, there are people who at first would appear one way then when they feel like they “got” you, the real them comes out. I had ignored red flags before and now I am put in a place that I must pay attention to them. And to stop trying to find the good in everyone when most people don’t even have your best interests in mind.

I do believe there are good in people, but we cannot walk around with blinders on. People will change more colors than a chameleon and we must protect our hearts, energy, and space.

The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.
–Steve Jobs
I love this quote because of how inspiring it is. These words of wisdom speak to me because it reminds me to keep going and don’t stop. At times, I find myself constantly searching for my life purpose and soul mission. I have to keep telling myself that if I put in the work and I will get to where I want to be in life, live how I want to live and be who I want to be. I’m still not there. I don’t want to settle and feeling like the supposed normality of this mundane life that I had before this virus pandemic is how my life is supposed to be. And though I had and still is putting in the work, I keep getting knock backward and/or off course. I don’t want to spend my whole life looking, I want to get there; to be there and enjoy the fruits of my labor. I’m not giving up because I came too far. And I encourage you all to do the same.
This ends my Words Of Wisdom challenge post. I hope you all had enjoyed today’s challenge. What words of wisdom speak to you that you would like to share? Tell us in the comments.
And stay tuned for Day 10 writing challenge.
Stay safe. Stay protected. And be blessed. Thank you for reading.

April Writing Challenge- Day 4: The Inspirational Ones #AprilWritingChallenge

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Yesterday had come and gone and today arrive with a basket of chances for us to do whatever it is that we want to do and need to do. Though it is said that tomorrow isn’t promise but when it does come, it’s like a present from God to live to see another day so we can have the chance to live, to get things going, to just be.

Today’s challenge is writing about someone who inspires me. The thing is, there is more than one and I simply can not narrow it down to one. So, this is what I will do, I write about them as a whole.

Who inspires me are the people who are selfless and they make it their business to help those in need. They are kind, loving, caring, and wants the best for others.

The ones who inspire me are the ones who embrace their spirituality because it is a part of them. It’s part of nature and all of us. They have humility and embraced all aspects of Self. They practice self-awareness, and of the Universe and beyond.

The people who inspire me are writers, bloggers, vloggers, entrepreneurs. The ones who inspire others to be successful.

The ones who inspire me are the humanitarians, the visionaries, and the people who touched the hearts of those with the power of their words, the caring of their own heart, the love they emit, and the greatness in their being.

I admire people who come from different backgrounds and cultures; from all walks of life. The passion I see in people who go the extra mile and practice empathy, those that make a great impact and leave behind a legacy.

These people instill in me to go and be the best I can be. To not complain and just do something about what I can change. And if not, then it wasn’t meant to be and to know that it wasn’t my time.

Thank you for reading, I hope you enjoyed this post. Who inspire you? Stay tuned for Day 5 as I write about the 5 places I want to visit. Take care.