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PressThis: The 5 Major Things You Must Realize Before You Can Transform Into Better Versions Of Yourself


Good morning/afternoon/evening everyone! I hope you all are well. And for those that celebrates Memorial Day, Happy Memorial Day to you! A special one of thanks and gratitude to the military family and friends I know. Thank you for your service.

Today’s post is about transformation from an article I read and since it hit close to what I was planning on blogging about, I decided to share it.

What does transformation means to you, and have you ever went through one? How have it affected you?

Transformation is so important in our lives, for our well-being, and most of all for us spiritually. When there is an area or two (or more) in our life that we need to work on, we don’t sit back and hope it will one day work out on its own. No, we work on those area(s) ourselves so we can heal and grow spiritually. And in most cases, mentally, emotionally, sexually, etc.

This article hadn’t touched all the bases I want to talk about; however, I will one day come back to elaborate more. Though, below are the five things we must realize if we want to transform into a better us I had added to give you some insight on what the article entailed. And what I took from each one. You can read the entire article by clicking the link below. I do hope it helps someone.

Take care of yourself from the inside out.

–Pamela


“Change is inevitable, but transformation is by conscious choice.” — Heather Ash Amara

When you hear people talking about becoming better versions of themselves you probably imagine a Disney transformation. In real life transformation happens differently. If you want to know how differently ask the butterfly that transforms from a caterpillar. The truth is, transformation is not a smooth path. It means facing everything within you that you run away from, staying within that inner goo until you are done.

And by done, I mean until you are ready to break out of your cocoon and face the real world.

Here are the five things you must realize if you want to transform into better and truer version of yourself:

1. You must let go of the pain from your past. (Before you can transform into a better version, you must let go of this pain because it will keep holding you down, even in the most perfect reality you can imagine.)

2. There is no alternative. (We want to change but we don’t want to leave our comfort zone. Well sorry, it can’t be done like that. The sooner you embrace this fact and take action, the better.)

3. Stop trying to be yourself. (Stop trying, and BE!)

4. Transformation is now. (Real freedom is now, it’s in your choices this moment. Knowing what to do will not serve you anything if you don’t do something right now. If you want to change your life, you don’t plan, you do it in this right exact moment. You stop reading and you call the person you want to call to tell them what you wanted.)

5. Learn to surf. (The most powerful way is to learn how to use the force of the stream in your favor, not as something you fight. This means you go with the current but you surf it to your favor.)

Source: The 5 Major Things You Must Realize Before You Can Transform Into Better Versions Of Yourself

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Writing

PressThis: How to Become a Travel Writer (seriously)


For a little over a year, I have thought about traveling since it’s something that I love to do but don’t get a chance to… hardly. I always wanted to explore the world, nationally and internationally since I was a young girl.

For those of you who have been following me a while, you know I love to write. Writing is a lifelong passion of mines and a way of life. Anyway, although I am working hard on my craft, to get my content, stories, etc out there, I’m not giving up. Some things been going on and I won’t speak negative on them.

I am, though, considering other ways, just haven’t started, though I am sharing what I researched for anyone who may be thinking about trying travel writing out.

I’ve included a preview below on tips for becoming a travel writer. You can click on the link to learn more. Hope this helps anyone.


How to become a travel writer.
1. Read.

Start reading and don’t stop.

Read all the “greats,” but don’t skip the more obscure writers. Read magazines. Get yourself a library card if you don’t have one, and if you can’t do that, check Google Books and Google Magazines.

The idea isn’t to imitate, but to simply know what — what genres, what styles, what writers — came before you, as well as who your contemporaries are.

2. Redefine the genre of travel writing.

“Travel writing” includes hotel reviews and destination guides, published in guidebooks and in glossy travel magazines. But travel writing’s more than service pieces.

Check out this genre-busting, long-format narrative by Porter Fox. Or this blog postu by multi-genre writer Elizabeth Eslami, which I’d categorize as “place-based writing.”

In a way, all movement and all settling is travel, and so the stories we tell about these experiences are “travel writing” in the broadest sense of the word. Even if some editors don’t see it that way.

3. Start a blog.

In the not-so-distant past, a writer had to have a decent portfolio of publication credits to be considered a “travel writer,” and certainly to be published in a glossy mag.

Not so anymore.

Thousands of writers have published their writing primarily or exclusively on their blogs. Some have gotten book deals. Some have gotten print gigs. Some get offers of free travel. And some get nothing more than the recognition that their writing means something to a random reader who stumbled across their blog doing a Google search.

Not sure how to get started? Check out Matador’s stockpile of blogging tips.

4. Develop your online presence.

Use Facebook, Twitter, and other social media platforms to connect with other writers, editors, and readers.

5. Build a network, online and off.

Start your blog, set up a Facebook and Twitter account, but make sure you get offline, too. Stories and relationships don’t develop best through a screen. That only happens at ground level.

MatadorU hosts frequent workshops and events around the world.

6. Travel. But not just to “exotic” places.

You’ve got a 9-5’er. You’ve got kids. You’ve got debt. You’ve got no money. You’ve got an expired passport.

What you’ve got are excuses. A walk beyond your front door is travel. The only thing you need for a trip is curiosity.

Click the link below to read 22 tips for becoming a travel writer.

Source: How to become a travel writer (seriously)

Writing

Mirrored Souls- A Twin Flame #Love Story #amwriting #Fiction


Photo credit: pixabay.com

At first glance, the familiar recognition of mirrored souls was astounding as they stared deeply into each other eyes. Finally meeting at a resort in Montego Bay, Jamaica, they embraced and held on for a minute longer before ambling over to a tranquil area.

She touched his cheek softly and said how much this moment means to her; however, her lips hadn’t moved. Though, telepathically, he received her message and planted his lips upon hers.

Unhurriedly disconnecting to watch the waves of the blue-green ocean, they’re relieved to have finally given their healed heart another chance at love.

By: Pamela E Hester ©2017

I do hope you enjoy this story as I had writing it. Thanks for reading.

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This micofiction story was one I’ve written in 2017 for the César E Serrano Foundation competition. A couple of weeks ago I found out I didn’t won and yesterday I found out I didn’t made the finalist list either.
Although I am hurt by that, I am grateful to have taken a part in their foundation. It had really helped me. I once made a post last November about the International Day Of Words and about receiving a letter about being their ambassador and such. 

Writing

International Day Of Words


Today is International Day Of Words, and I am thrilled. Yesterday was Thanksgiving which was also my mom’s birthday. I hope that everyone who celebrates it had a joyous time with love ones.

Now, today is another day being celebrated as a bond of humankind. Last year, around this time, I have submitted a flash fiction writing along with thousands of other people to the César E Serrano Foundation and the Museum of Words.

This year, they made me their ambassador. I’ve never participated in International Day Of Words, but I believe it’s a wonderful thing to do. I am so happy to be and proud of myself.

It’s about how we use words to bridge the gap between cultures, worlds, and all of mankind. We use words to express ourselves and to others.

We use words to bond with each other and I hope on this day, everyone can use words to express themselves to someone no matter where that person is in the world.
How do you use words to bond with mankind?

Writing

Meet Paris: An Interview With My Main Character #MondayBlogs #amwriting


Reposted.

Happy Monday, everyone! How was your weekend?

Today, I have for you is an interview with Paris Thompson. She’s the female main character who has been through a lot of obstacles and had fought to overcome them.

***If you haven’t read Trenton’s interview (Paris’ boyfriend/male main character), please do so by going here.

1. Tell us about yourself, Paris.

Hi everyone! Great to be here. Well, a little about me, I’m a 18-year-old college student majoring in nursing. One sister, no brothers. My parents are divorced. Hmm… what else? I’m currently in therapy for my PTSD. Uh, I had some things in life that threw lemons and dropped rocks on my head. I’m still overcoming the night of my attack, and have nightmares… Can we move on, please?


2. Sure. Do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert? 

I’m an introvert most definitely. I’m far from being a social butterfly. It’s very hard to get me to go out and party; I prefer to sit at home, read and watch movies. 

At times, I can be even-tempered, then when something sets me off, I get aggressive, moody, and/or too quiet. I can’t let anything go.

3. If I asked you to write an entry in your journal, what would it be about? 

It would be about how I’m progressing every day with therapy, and my views on life.

4. What parts of loving come easy to you? 

Parts of? (Frowning) Girl, I don’t know what you mean. As in sex “loving” or loving someone? 

(Loving someone, or yourself.) Oh. (Lol.)

Well, what I’ve learned is that you have to first love yourself. I thought I once have. I love every part of myself, inside and out. From my physical features to my whole being- the good and the bad and nurturing myself back to fullness, mentally and spiritually. I’m not beating myself up anymore over things I can’t change.

Loving someone, um..hmm… the closeness for sure. Nothing like feeling like you can bond with someone on some deeper level, and connecting on a higher level. The passion- being fully committed to each other and willing to make it work. It more than just the sexual attraction, which nothing is wrong with that, you got to have more.

Love isn’t easy. I know that now. It’s an unhurried and fulfilling process with the right one. With me and Trent, we’re taking it slow, and rebuilding one day at a time.

5. What can you tell us about yourself that most people, like family for instance, doesn’t know?

I, uh- hmm… I can’t say at the moment. (Looking nervously around, twiddling her thumbs.)

6. Did you have a happy childhood?Why or why not? 

My childhood was okay. My parents tried to make it work being married to each other. They get along well now; sometimes I feel like they do it just for my benefit. They love me; I love them dearly, and they have some kind of love still for each other.

I had only one friend my entire life. My childhood is like any other person’s. Can’t really complain. Then again, there are some dark secrets I’m harboring. Don’t ask what they are, because I couldn’t even say them in the last question.

7. What matters the most to you in life?

Pamela, what matters most to me in life is being happy. And being peaceful. You got to have that. I always felt like no matter what you do, it will never be good enough for anybody. I’m just glad I had suportive family who was there for me even when I was too ashamed to tell them what happened to me and all the unthinkable things I’ve done. Family that cares about you matters.

8. What are some of your interests?
(Smiling) My interests are: reading fiction books by Kimberla Lawson Roby, Carl Weber, E. L. James, James Patterson, and Eric Jerome Dickey. They are my faves. There’s nothing like curling up with a good book and dare someone to bother you.

I like volunteering in the community. Right now, I volunteer at my local hospital. I absolutely love helping the elderly and being there for them in their time of need. 

I enjoyed watching horror and romance movies, baking, and riding bikes together with my fam. 

9. What is your greatest regret?

My biggest regret is meeting this girl named Caitlin. Gosh! I was so stupid for hanging with her when I knew she was bad news. There was signs pointing in every direction, but did I take heed?- no! I kept going around the damn girl because she brought excitement into my life, thrills, the glamorous life. 

At times, I was bored because I had nothing else better to do with myself. She was an outlet for me. However, all that led to my boyfriend and me having a strained relationship; I nearly lost him, and I ended up being addicted to sex and drugs. I lost my self-respect and dignity. Oh, yeah, I ended up in a nuthouse. So, yeah, I regretted meeting HER

10. If you could change anything about your life, what would it be? 

Basically what I’ve mentioned for the last question. So, I would changed my vulnerability towards the people I meet. I would change my ability to be more focus when times get tough; especially when last year upon meeting Caitlin, I felt abandoned or neglected by those I love. She used that time of weakness to prey on me. I want to change to being a MUCH better me, one day at a time.

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This concludes my interview with Paris. Thank you, Paris!

I hope to you all that this interview helps give you a clear understanding on who Paris is and what she shared with us today. Her life was distressing at times, but worth writing about, because I felt empathy towards her struggles, trials, and determination to turned her life around.

As for the part 2 of Trent’s interview, I’m still waiting for a response on when he is available since our interview was previously cut short and he had more to share with us.

Thank you for stopping by and reading!

  ©2016 Pamela E. Hester